I am Pregnant and Don’t Know What to Do: Unplanned Pregnancy Options in Massachusetts
Finding out you’re pregnant and don’t know what to do can feel overwhelming. Maybe you took a test this morning, or you’ve been wondering for days. Either way, you’re here because you need answers, not judgment.
The good news? You have time, you have options, and you have support available right now. Whether you’re considering parenting, adoption, or abortion, you can get the information and support you need to make the choice that’s right for you—without pressure to go in any particular direction.
Get free support today to talk through your options with someone who understands what you’re going through.
Thousands of women in Massachusetts have stood exactly where you’re standing right now. Here’s what you need to know about your options, your timeline, and the resources available to help you move forward with confidence.
“I’m Pregnant and Don’t Know What to Do”—Start Here
First, take a breath. The panic you’re feeling right now is completely normal. Your mind is probably racing through a hundred different scenarios—how you’ll tell people, what this means for your future, whether you’re ready for this.
Here’s what you need to know: you don’t have to make any decisions today. What you do need is accurate information about your options and someone who will listen without pushing you in any direction.
Some women find it helpful to write down what they’re feeling—the fears, the questions, the things they’re not ready to say out loud yet. Others need to talk it through with someone who understands. There’s no wrong way to process this.
First Step: Confirm Your Pregnancy Medically
If you’ve only taken an at-home pregnancy test, your next step should be confirming your pregnancy with a medical test. At-home tests are usually accurate, but a medical confirmation will tell you exactly how far along you are, which matters for understanding your timeline and options.
Many pregnancy resource centers in Massachusetts offer free pregnancy testing and ultrasounds:
- Pregnancy Help Boston (pregnancyhelpboston.org) with locations in Brighton, Brockton, and Natick
- Your Options Medical (youroptionsma.org) in Brookline, Fall River, Hyannis, and Revere
- First Concern Pregnancy Resource Center (firstconcern.org) in Marlborough
- Boston Pregnancy Center (bostonpregnancycenter.org) in Boston
- Problem Pregnancy of Worcester (problempregnancy.org) in Worcester
These centers provide free, confidential services. They can help you understand where you are in your pregnancy and what that means for your options—without pressuring you toward any specific choice.
Understanding Your Unplanned Pregnancy Options in Massachusetts
You have three primary options when facing an unplanned pregnancy: parenting, abortion, or adoption. Each comes with its own timeline, process, and practical considerations.
Parenting means raising your child yourself. This option requires thinking through childcare, finances, housing, and support systems—but many women who weren’t initially planning to parent find that with the right resources, it becomes possible.
Abortion ends the pregnancy. In Massachusetts, abortion is legal up to 24 weeks of pregnancy. After that point, it’s only available under specific medical circumstances. The earlier in pregnancy you are, the more options you have for how the abortion is performed.
Adoption means making an adoption plan where you choose a family to raise your child. You can stay involved through open adoption if you want, receive financial support during pregnancy, and maintain whatever level of contact feels right for you after placement.
None of these choices is easy, but they’re all valid. The right choice depends on your circumstances, your values, and what feels possible for you right now.
What to Know About Parenting After an Unplanned Pregnancy
If you’re considering parenting but worried about affording it, Massachusetts offers several programs specifically designed to help:
Financial assistance programs:
- MassHealth for Pregnant Women provides comprehensive prenatal and delivery coverage at no cost for eligible women—you can apply at mass.gov/masshealth
- WIC (Women, Infants, and Children) offers nutrition assistance, free healthy foods, and breastfeeding support—call 1-800-942-1007 or apply online at mass.gov/wic
- SNAP (food assistance) helps with grocery costs for low-income families—apply through mass.gov/snap
- TAFDC (cash assistance) provides temporary financial support for families with children
Healthcare and parenting support:
- Healthy Families Massachusetts (mspcc.org) offers free home visiting for first-time parents age 23 and under, with trained professionals who visit during pregnancy and your child’s first three years
- Parents as Teachers provides free parent education, developmental screenings, and support for families with children up to age 5
These programs exist because raising a child takes resources, and Massachusetts recognizes that many families need support. Getting help doesn’t mean you’re failing—it means you’re being smart about giving your child what they need.
Is Abortion Legal in Massachusetts? Here’s What You Need to Know About Your Rights and Access
Abortion is legal in Massachusetts with some restrictions based on how far along you are in your pregnancy.
Before 24 weeks: Abortion is legal and accessible. Massachusetts law (Chapter 112, Section 12M) allows physicians, physician assistants, nurse practitioners, and nurse midwives to perform abortions if the pregnancy has existed for less than 24 weeks.
After 24 weeks: Abortion is only permitted under specific circumstances outlined in Chapter 112, Section 12N—when it’s necessary to preserve your life or health, or in cases where the fetus has a lethal abnormality or diagnosis that is incompatible with sustained life outside the uterus.
If you’re under 16: Massachusetts requires parental consent for abortion, or you can get a judicial bypass where a judge gives permission instead of your parents.
Cost: Massachusetts provides public funding for abortion care for eligible individuals through MassHealth. Many clinics also offer financial assistance or sliding-scale fees.
To find abortion providers in your area, visit mass.gov or call Massachusetts 2-1-1 for confidential referrals. If you’re trying to decide between abortion and adoption, talking through both options with a counselor can help you understand what each one really means for you.
Considering Adoption? What It Really Means
Adoption means placing your baby with a family you choose to raise as their own. Modern adoption looks very different from what you might imagine—you have control over who adopts your baby, you can stay in touch through open adoption if you want, and you receive comprehensive support throughout your pregnancy.
Some women choose adoption because they want their child to have two parents, financial stability, or opportunities they can’t provide right now. Others choose it because they’re not ready to parent but want their child to have life. Either reason—and many others—are completely valid.
Adoption isn’t giving up on your baby. It’s making a plan for your baby’s future that includes love, stability, and the life you want them to have. If you’re wondering how to find someone to adopt your baby, working with a licensed adoption agency means you’ll review profiles of waiting families and choose the one that feels right for you and your child.
How Adoption Supports Pregnant Women in Massachusetts
When you work with a licensed adoption agency in Massachusetts, you receive support throughout your pregnancy and beyond:
Financial support during pregnancy: You can receive help with pregnancy-related expenses including rent, utilities, groceries, maternity clothes, and medical costs not covered by insurance. This financial assistance continues throughout your pregnancy and for several weeks after delivery, depending on your state’s laws.
Free 24/7 counseling: You have access to emotional support from trained counselors who understand what you’re going through. This counseling is available before you make your decision, during your pregnancy, and after placement—for as long as you need it.
You choose the family: You review profiles of waiting families and select the one that feels right for your baby. You decide what matters most—whether that’s religion, lifestyle, location, family structure, or values. You can meet the family before making your final decision.
Open adoption options: You can maintain contact with your child and their adoptive family through pictures, letters, phone calls, or visits. You decide what level of contact feels right for you. Many birth mothers find that open adoption helps them feel connected to their child’s life while knowing they’re being raised in a stable, loving home.
Post-adoption support: After placement, you continue to have access to counseling and support as you process your emotions and adjust to life after adoption. This support doesn’t end when the adoption is finalized.
Under Massachusetts adoption law (Chapter 210, Section 2), you cannot sign adoption consent papers until at least four days after your baby is born. This gives you time to meet your baby and be absolutely certain about your decision. Once signed before a notary and two witnesses, consent is final and irrevocable.
Resources for Adoption in Massachusetts
If you want to learn more about adoption without any pressure, these resources can help:
- American Adoptions offers free 24/7 support at 1-800-236-7846—you can call even if you’re just exploring your options
- ConsideringAdoption.com provides detailed information about adoption in Massachusetts
- AdoptionAgencies.com lists licensed agencies serving Massachusetts families
You can also talk to someone who can answer your specific questions about how adoption works, what support is available, and whether it might be right for you—without any obligation to move forward.
Not Sure What to Do About an Unplanned Pregnancy? Here’s How to Make the Right Decision for You
Making this decision means thinking honestly about your life right now and what feels possible for your future. It also means giving yourself permission to feel conflicted—that’s completely normal.
Consider these questions:
- What does parenting look like for me realistically—not in theory, but with my actual circumstances right now?
- Who can I count on for support if I parent? What resources would I need to make it work?
- How do I feel about abortion? Does it align with my values and what feels right for my body and my life?
- Can I picture choosing adoption—both the grief of placement and the peace of knowing my child is thriving with a family I chose?
There’s no perfect answer, and you might feel pulled in different directions from one day to the next. That’s okay. Give yourself time to sit with your feelings and explore what each option really means before making your decision.
Talk to Someone You Can Trust—Unplanned Pregnancy Counseling in Massachusetts
Sometimes you just need to talk through what you’re thinking with someone who won’t judge you or push their own agenda.
An unplanned pregnancy counselor can help you:
- Sort through your emotions without pressure or judgment
- Understand the practical realities of each option
- Think through what matters most to you and your specific situation
- Make a decision you can feel confident about
Where to find unplanned pregnancy counseling in Massachusetts:
National support (available 24/7):
- American Adoptions at 1-800-236-7846 (phone) or 1-800-236-7848 (text/call) offers free, confidential counseling for all options—you don’t have to be considering adoption to call
Local counseling resources:
- Problem Pregnancy of Worcester at 888-310-7217 (problempregnancy.org) in Worcester
- A Woman’s Concern with locations in Dorchester, Hyannis, and Revere at 866-435-7292 (awomansconcern.org)
- Pregnancy Care Center at 978-686-5124 (pccnortheast.org) in Lawrence
These counselors specialize in helping women facing difficult pregnancy decisions. They can provide emotional support, practical information, and a safe space to process what you’re going through—whatever you decide.
Resources for Unplanned Pregnancies in Massachusetts
You don’t have to navigate this alone. Massachusetts has community resources available right now to help with medical care, financial support, and emotional assistance.
Community health centers offering prenatal care:
- Lynn Community Health Center (Lynn) – Sliding-scale prenatal services at lchcnet.org
- East Boston Neighborhood Health Center (East Boston) – Comprehensive prenatal care at ebnhc.org
- Holyoke Health Center (Holyoke) – Bilingual prenatal services at hhcinc.org
- Greater Lawrence Family Health Center (Lawrence, Methuen, Haverhill) – Full-service prenatal care at glfhc.org
- Lowell Community Health Center (Lowell) – Prenatal care and family planning at lchealth.org
State maternal health programs:
- Massachusetts WIC Program provides nutrition assistance statewide—call 1-800-942-1007 or visit mass.gov/wic
- MassHealth offers comprehensive pregnancy coverage at mass.gov/masshealth
- 211 Massachusetts connects you with local resources for housing, food, healthcare, and more by calling 2-1-1 or visiting mass211.org
Pregnancy resource centers throughout Massachusetts: Massachusetts has pregnancy centers across the state offering free pregnancy tests, ultrasounds, and options counseling. Find centers near you through the Pregnancy Care Alliance or by calling locations like A Woman’s Concern, Pregnancy Help Boston, CareNet Pregnancy Resource Center in Fitchburg, or Springfield Pregnancy Care Center.
You Deserve Support—Here’s Where to Start
No matter what you’re feeling right now—scared, confused, relieved, angry, or all of the above—you deserve compassionate support as you figure out what comes next.
Whether you’re leaning toward parenting, abortion, or adoption, or you’re still weighing all three options, reaching out for help is a brave and important first step. You don’t have to make this decision alone.
If you’d like to talk through your options with someone who understands what you’re going through, support is available 24/7. You can also learn more about financial assistance for unplanned pregnancy to understand what help might be available no matter which option you choose.
You’ve got this. And whatever you decide, you don’t have to face it alone.