What to Know When Looking for the Right Adoptive Family
It’s understandable to be worried about placing your baby with a new family, especially when you’re new to adoption. You want to make sure that your baby will be taken care of in a safe and loving environment, where they’ll want for nothing. But, how can you determine if a family is ready to adopt from their adoptive family profile alone?
One of the biggest questions that prospective birth mothers have about their adoption is, “Is there a way to place a baby for adoption where you’ll know the baby will be placed in a good home?”
Know this: Every adoptive family that works with an agency is thoroughly screened before they’re matched with a prospective birth mother. And, as the woman in charge of the adoption plan, you will always have the final say in who adopts your baby.
How Do They Check People That Want to Adopt?
In today’s adoptions, every adoptive family has to meet the legal requirements of their state and their adoption agency before they can adopt. So, what does the adoptive family go through before they can welcome a child into their home?
One of the first steps they have to complete is something called a home study. During this process, the adoptive family will complete:
- An in‐house visit from the adoptive family’s social worker
- Background checks and clearances
- Individual social worker interviews for each member of the home
- Financial statement reviews that ensure they can provide for your child
Working with an adoption agency means that you can rest assured that you’re being matched with prospective adoptive families that are safe and ready to adopt. Your agency will also be able to verify that the family has the emotional readiness that’s needed to become adoptive parents.
Remember, your adoption specialist will be there every step of the way to make sure the family fits every aspect that you’re looking for.
Is There a Safe Way to Find Adoptive Parents?
Before you can decide on an adoptive family for your baby, you may have to spend some time getting to know them.
Today’s prospective birth mothers are in control of a majority of the adoption process. This includes finding the right adoptive families for their babies. But, after you’ve picked an adoptive family, you can also start getting to know them through pre‐placement contact.
Pre‐placement contact lets you get to know the adoptive families before you decide they are right for your baby. The first time that you get to know them will usually be through a phone call, and your adoption specialist will be there to mediate the call and offer helpful ice-breaker questions if you get nervous. You’ll also be able to get to know the adoptive family through additional phone calls and emails before meeting in person. You can share as much information about yourself as you would like during the first part of the “getting to know you” stage.
Remember, this is your chance to really determine what you want in an adoptive family. While you’re getting to know the family, you can start thinking about your goals for your adoption:
- What kind of environment do I want my baby to grow up in?
- What kind of education do I want my baby to have?
- How many siblings do I want my child to have?
- How important are appearances? Do I want the adoptive family to closely resemble my baby?
Through pre‐placement contact, you can ensure these desires are addressed, take control of your adoption plan and create the perfect life you want for your baby. If you have any questions, your adoption specialist will be there to give you more tips.
How Do I Make Sure My Kid Will Get Adopted Into a Good Family?
Your adoption agency will make sure that every adoptive family that you speak to is safe and ready to bring a child into their home. But, when you’re a prospective birth mother, the final stage of pre‐screening an adoptive family comes down to you.
It’s important that you pay attention to what you’re feeling during your conversations and how the adoptive family is behaving. You might ask yourself:
- Do they seem excited to get to know me and my baby?
- Will they adhere to my post‐adoption agreement?
- Have they been thoroughly screened by my adoption specialist and adoption agency?
- Do I truly feel that I can trust them with my baby?
- Do I see myself have a deep relationship with this family after the adoption, if I want one?
If you need help finding an adoption agency that always pre‐screens their families, here are some that you can contact: