Finding adoptive parents for your baby can be an exciting step in your adoption plan. But it can also feel pretty nerve‐wracking to have this kind of responsibility on your shoulders. You may start asking, “How can I start finding parents to adopt my baby?”
Before you start looking for a family for adopting, it’s a good idea to think more about what you want in terms of an adoptive family. This is a big decision to make, but you will have all the time you need to make the best choice for you and your baby.
To help you out, here are the answers to some of the most common questions that women looking to find adoptive parents ask.
Can You Pick Who You Adopt Your Baby To?
Sometimes, women considering adoption ask, “When you give your kids up for adoption, can you choose the family?”
Prospective birth mothers are in charge of almost every aspect of their adoption plan from beginning to end. If you work with an adoption agency, you’ll have access to hundreds of adoptive family profiles from across the country. Each adoptive family profile will:
- Introduce you to the adoptive family
- Show you what their home, neighborhood, and community look like
- Show you their family traditions
- Provide a description of their hopes and dreams for parenthood
- And so much more
Your adoption specialist will work diligently to match you to adoptive families that meet your preferences, based on your adoption plan.
How Do I Choose Someone to Adopt My Baby?
When you start looking for adoptive parents it can get overwhelming to look at so many adoptive family profiles. How do you find the right parents for your child?
If you’re pregnant and looking for adoptive parents, here are some questions to think about while looking at adoptive family profiles online.
- Where do I want my baby to grow up? If you’ve always dreamed of moving away from your hometown, and you’d like to give your baby that same opportunity, you can find adoptive families that can help fulfill that wish. You might also envision your baby growing up in a rural area, on a farm, or enjoying the vibrant city life.
- What should the adoptive family look like? Many adoptive families today are more than happy to pursue a transracial adoption. But it’s completely up to you if you would like to find a family that closely resembles your baby.
- What do I want my baby to grow up believing? For any faith you practice, there will be an adoptive family that follows the same belief system and cherishes it the way you do. If you want to find an adoptive family that raise your child with the same beliefs that you hold dear, that won’t be a problem.
- What kind of future contact do I want to share with the family? As a prospective birth mother, you have the right to an open adoption relationship. Think about what kind of contact you wish to share with your child (photos, letters, in-person visits and more), and there will be an adoptive family who wants the same thing.
When to Start Looking for Adoptive Parents
If you can already envision what your ideal adoptive family looks like, you may be wondering, “Is it too early to find someone who can adopt my child?” You can start looking for adoptive parents as early or as late in your pregnancy as you would like. If you’re thinking about adoption while you’re at the hospital or after the baby has been born, you still have the same opportunity to pick an adoptive family as any other prospective birth mother. There is no time limit when it comes to finding the right adoptive family for your baby.
As soon as you’re ready to start looking for a family for adopting, your adoption specialist will send you adoptive family profiles and walk you through the next steps.
Working With an Adoption Agency
One of the best ways to find adoptive parents is through a national adoption agency. This type of agency can provide networking services to help you start looking for adoptive parents, no matter where you live. Adoption agencies provide services that include:
- Pre‐screening adoptive families
- Facilitating contact with adoptive family
- Providing counseling and educational resources
- Organizing financial assistance provided by the adoptive family and the agency
Here are some reliable adoption agencies that you can contact to start looking for adoptive parents:
Adoption agencies provide many notable services for women in your situation. But, they’re not the only way to go about choosing an adoptive family; instead, you might choose to work on your own.
In an independent adoption, you will work without the assistance of an adoption agency. You can find an adoptive family through:
- Online advertisements ‒ Some adoptive families are also interested in independent adoptions and will post their profiles online for you to view.
- Ask your friends and family ‒ The people closest to you can keep an eye out for couples that are hoping to grow their family through adoption.
- Adoption Facilitators ‒ If you’re looking to find an adoptive family as quickly as possible, a facilitator can help you meet them. However, you won’t have the support of an adoption specialist if you choose to work with a facilitator.
If you are pursuing an independent adoption, it’s important that you make sure that the families are trustworthy and that they have completed their home study. You’ll still need to work with an adoption attorney to finalize your independent adoption, as well.
The future that you envision for your baby is completely up to you. You can take any method that you would like to start looking for adoptive parents, and you will always have the final say at the end.