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Interested in a secret adoption, a confidential adoption, or an anonymous adoption? First, know there can be some important difficulties to know about. Read this article before committing to a secret adoption.

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Pursuing a Secret Adoption: What to Consider

If you have found yourself unexpectedly pregnant and considering adoption, it’s reasonable to assume you are at a stressful point in your life. An unplanned pregnancy can be a stressor for anyone, especially if you feel that you aren’t ready to give your child the life he or she deserves. Our hope is that, should you find yourself in this situation, you have a strong support system to stand beside you while you pursue adoption for your child. However, that isn’t the case for everyone.

In some cases, women who don’t have that support system may want to pursue a secret adoption, or a confidential adoption. It is entirely up to an expectant mother who she does or doesn’t tell about her pregnancy and adoption plan. However, hiding a pregnancy is not always simple. Continue reading to learn more about the realities of an anonymous adoption.

What is a Confidential Adoption?

A confidential adoption (also known as a secret adoption or an anonymous adoption) refers to a situation in which a pregnant woman keeps her identity private as she goes through the adoption process. She does not have contact with the adoptive family in this type of adoption, either before the adoption to get to know them or after to check in on how her child is doing.

A woman considering an anonymous adoption might do so because she wants to keep her pregnancy and adoption plan hidden from people in her own life. Most modern adoptions are open or semi-open, which means that the birth parents and adoptive parents share at least some degree of communication, but it’s absolutely possible for you to complete a closed adoption if you value keeping your adoption a secret.

Before committing to a closed or confidential adoption, though, it’s important to consider both the advantages and disadvantages of doing so.

Pros of a Confidential Adoption

It’s undeniable that there aren’t many benefits of an adoption kept secret. However, if for any reason you feel that a secret adoption may be best for you and your child, there are a few advantages to consider:

Cons of a Confidential Adoption

There are, however, some considerable disadvantages of keeping adoption secret that should be considered:

There are many different reasons a woman might want to pursue a closed or confidential adoption, and if that’s the best option for you, that’s completely okay. In this instance, we would advise that you keep in mind the challenges associated with a secret adoption and work closely with your adoption professional to ensure that all of your needs — as well as your baby’s — are met and that you are handling the birth father’s rights in a legal manner.

Consider contacting one of these adoption agencies for more information: