Adoption without Parental Consent
As a resource for pregnant women considering adoption, we get a few common questions about birth fathers quite frequently:
Can a child be adopted without the father’s consent?
Can a mother put a baby up for adoption without the father?
I’m wondering how to proceed with an adoption without a father; what can I do?
These questions are all reasonable, and they are important ones for any prospective birth mother to ask. If you aren’t sure how to proceed with your adoption in plan in regards to the father of your child, then this article is written for you.
Remember, the information presented in this article is not intended to be and should not be taken as legal advice. Please speak with a local adoption attorney for more information on birth father rights in your state.
What is consent?
In an adoption context, consent is the agreement given by a parent or guardian to place a child for adoption and to release all rights and duties related to that child. It’s important to know that consent laws — like all other adoption laws — vary from state to state. You’ll want to research the laws in your specific state for the legal requirements for giving consent to your child’s adoption—when you can do it, how it must be given, whether or not there is a waiting period after a child is born, etc.
Adoption without parental consent from a mother is rare, but if you are interested in giving a baby up for adoption without the father’s consent, there may be circumstances in which this is possible.
Unknown Birth Fathers
If you aren’t sure who the father of your child is — or if you do know who he is but not where he is living — that is completely okay. You aren’t the first woman to wonder about adoption without parental consent because she isn’t sure who (or where) the father is. If this is the case, you’ll want to work with your adoption agency and attorney to learn about whether or not your state has a Putative Father Registry, or a system for a father to acknowledge his parental rights. If your state does and the father does not register, you may not have to give him notice of your adoption plans.
If you have made all efforts to find your child’s father and he has not legally established paternity or provided financial support for the child during your pregnancy, it is possible that you’ll be able to pursue adoption without the father’s consent. However, only an adoption attorney can determine what is possible in your specific situation.
Unsupportive Birth Fathers
If you know who the father of your child is and are able to contact him, it’s always a possibility that he may be unsupportive of your plan to pursue adoption for your baby. If you are wondering, “Can a child be adopted without the father’s consent?” in this scenario, it will be important to follow your state’s laws very carefully. In many cases, a father may be required to provide financial support throughout your pregnancy, as well as establish a relationship with the baby when he or she has been born, in order to protect his parental rights.
It’s important that you do not ignore the father of your child and his parental rights or lie to him when making your adoption plan. Your adoption professional will be able to help you understand the laws in your state and how to pursue a legal adoption without the father’s consent. What’s important is that you honestly share your situation with your professional as early as possible to get the support you need.
Abusive Birth Fathers
If telling the father of your child about your pregnancy or about your plan to pursue adoption might be dangerous, then do not, under any circumstances, approach him alone with this information. Instead, speak with your adoption professional first to learn more about ways to inform him of your pregnancy and adoption decision that ensure both you and your child are out of harm’s way.
In situations of abuse or rape, some states may consider a father’s consent unnecessary in order for an adoption to proceed. Your adoption agency will help you to stay safe and pursue an adoption plan for your child, but it’s important that you do not attempt to handle this situation alone. Always speak with a professional before approaching someone who may harm you or your child.
If you are in immediate danger from an abusive relationship, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233.
Keep This in Mind
It’s entirely possible that your baby’s father will have different opinions about what unplanned pregnancy option you should choose. And, while he has a right to his own emotions, you and you alone are qualified to make this decision for your child. If you feel that neither parenting nor abortion is right for you, it’s important that you don’t make a decision simply to appease the father of your child.
Oftentimes, a father may simply not understand the way modern day adoptions work. If you feel comfortable, consider sitting down, discussing your reasons for wanting to pursue adoption and explaining how it can be a great choice for your child. It’s possible that he may end up agreeing with you. Remember how uncertain and scared you felt when you found out you were pregnant? He probably has similar emotions, whether he’ll admit to it or not.
Remember, if you are interested in pursuing adoption without parental consent, work with your adoption agency to ensure that you legally complete an adoption without consent of the father. Here are a few agencies you can contact today to learn more about adoption without parental consent: