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If you are considering adoption, but being pressured to keep your baby, know that you have options. Read this guide to learn how you control your adoption decision.

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Do You Have to Keep Your Baby?

If you are exploring your options during an unplanned pregnancy, know that it is your right to decide what you want to do – nobody else can force you into making a decision.

An unplanned pregnancy is emotionally, mentally, and physically challenging. The last thing you need is feeling forced into making the decision to keep your baby. Often, we hear scenarios such as:

Know that no matter your situation, the decision to explore your pregnancy options is always something you are in complete control of. 

This guide explains that even if you are being pressured to keep your baby, options are available, and you are always eligible to place your baby for adoption. Anytime you have questions about adoption, your unplanned pregnancy options, or what to do when you are pressured into making a decision you do not want to make, fill out this online form to get more information from an adoption specialist.

Until then, if you want to give your baby up but your mother is forcing you to keep your baby, or you are facing any other pressure to keep your baby, continue reading this guide to learn more about the options you have available.

You are in Control of Your Pregnancy Options

When you are facing an unplanned pregnancy you are in control of what you decide to do with your pregnancy. No matter the opinions or the pressure you receive from friends or family, you are the only one who can decide what is best for you and your baby.

While every pregnancy is unique and the situations will vary, you generally have three options when facing an unplanned pregnancy:

Keep reading to learn more about these three options and how they may be the right decision for your unplanned pregnancy.

1. Choosing to Parent Your Baby

As the birth mother, you control the decision of what you want to do with your unplanned pregnancy. Although nobody can force you into raising your baby, parenting is always an option. Before deciding this is the path you want to take, it is important to determine if you are ready for parenthood. Consider mind things like:

Parenting your baby is a great option, but only if you are ready. Before deciding to raise your baby, it is essential to be honest with yourself and determine if you are prepared to provide a lifetime of love and support for your child. If at any point you do not feel you are able or ready, you will likely want to discuss your pregnancy options with an adoption specialist.

Unless you have had an abortion or have signed your adoption paperwork and relinquished your parental rights, you always have the option to parent your baby. Making the decision to parent is something only you can decide. Outside influences may provide their opinions, but if you want to give your baby up and your mother is forcing you to keep your baby, or anyone else is pressuring you into a decision, you are the only one who controls what you do with your unplanned pregnancy. 

2. Choosing Adoption for Your Baby

Women who choose adoption for their unplanned pregnancies do so for various reasons personal to them. It is essential for you to realize no matter your situation, adoption is always an option. You are always eligible to place your baby for adoption. 

If you are considering adoption and know you are not ready to parent, are not financially able to provide a healthy and supportive lifestyle for your baby, do not have the support system—whatever the reason may be — adoption is the best way to ensure your child will be raised in a loving and caring environment.

Much like how you control the decision of what you want to do during your unplanned pregnancy, you control every decision made in the adoption process. Working with an adoption specialist, you will determine:

Adoption gives you the opportunity to be involved every step of the way, as you find the best family for your baby while receiving the support you need along what can be an emotional journey. It also allows you to remain updated and involved in your child’s life, if you so choose.

Just like nobody can force you into parenting, nobody has the right to force you into choosing adoption. You are the only one who can make the decision if placing your baby for adoption is best for everyone involved. 

Adoption may not be right for every birth mother, but it may be right for you. Anytime you are interested in learning more about the life-changing benefits adoption can provide you and your baby, fill out this online form to get more information from an adoption specialist.

3. Choosing to Have an Abortion

If you are experiencing an unplanned pregnancy, you may consider having an abortion. With laws varying from state to state, this is generally only an option early in your pregnancy, and there are certain requirements you must meet to have this procedure. 

Keep in mind this is a permanent decision. Although it will terminate your pregnancy, which may be what you want, there can be emotional impacts and medical complications.

If you suspect you are pregnant and are leaning towards this decision, you will want to contact Planned Parenthood to determine if abortion is an option for you.

Contact a Professional

An unplanned pregnancy is a lot to handle, especially if you are being pressured towards a decision you disagree with. You never have to go through this experience on your own. Professionals are here to provide the support you need during this emotionally challenging time. 

Nobody can choose what is best for you and your baby other than you.

If you are facing pressure to keep your baby but want to explore your options, or you want to give your baby up but your mother is forcing you to keep your baby, fill out this online form to learn more about the adoption process and how placing your baby for adoption may be the best decision for you and your baby.